Slowie is not in favor of the drop by.

"When it comes to men--my place is for piano lessons, dropping off, picking things up and sex. I don't want anyone to come by."

"OK."

"We can use email, instant messages, text and lunch outside to past time. Coming to my place says we know the direction of this relationship."

"How is that?"

"What?"

"Where?"

"Coming over is a commitment, that means I care about something that I need from you. You think I can sit around talking about the elections with someone when I haven't figured out what type of relationship it is? I need to know that. I need to be sure of that. It doesn't have to be healthy. There is no right or wrong to it. I just need to know what it is."

"You believe the intentions should be made known before they are wiping their feet on your foyer rug?"

"It is a 1940's Iranian one."

"Of course."

"I don't have a lot of time. There is no chat with coffee. There is no drop by."

"Come on. It's part of the game. It's like opening presents on Christmas, except this could have treachery and sexual abuse inside."

"Not if it hasn't been established in another form of communication first. It would be too awkward."

"In every case?"

"I say this only in the case of ambiguity. If the relationship hasn't been obviously established, through business or prior connection etc."

"So again what are you saying?"

"This is the only form of communication you and I will have. Sitting here in this decrepit diner, this is it."

"I just want to come over for coffee."